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The random rants of Jai Atkins A.K.A Likwid

Glamourina: A New Choice in Athleisure Wear

Athleisure, is a modern trend in fashion where traditional workout/athletic clothing is worn in other settings.

When yoga pants went from an occasional public sight, to a regular occurrence years ago, brands capitalizing on the growing trend was inevitable.

In recent years, a vastly increasing number of companies have jumped into the athleisure game. Yet there still remained few options for women of color. Enter Glamourina.

In April of this year, proud working mothers Kia Renee and Nekol Choo introduced the Glamourina brand to the world. Looking to encourage increased levels of self-esteem for women of all ages, shapes and sizes– via the promotion of beauty, health and fitness.

What is Glamourina?

Glamourina is an online athleisure apparel store founded in Washington, DC. Their primary vision, to create pieces that would uplift women. And spark a shift in mindset for those that may need it.

A labor of love that took some two years to build, when asked why now in regards to the launching of Glamourina:

“There is a need for our product, cultural athleisure apparel. We felt that women of color were underrepresented in the fitness apparel market. And we wanted to provide options for us and by us.”

The first thing that jumps off the screen, whenever you look at the 1st generation of Glamourina apparel– the inclusion of kente cloth prints in their designs.

Check out our Kente collection for comfortable, quality athleisure apparel today!

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Why Kente Athleisure?

Kente is a traditional tribal fabric originating from Africa. Which like the continent, conjures a sense of strength and power.

“We are especially excited about our Kente line of athleisure apparel,” said Kia and Nekol, co-founders of the emerging company. “Our aim is to motivate and encourage women to be just that. Strong, powerful and confident at all times.”

In just two months since its inception, the line has received very favorable reviews. And the brand’s co-founders are diligently working to expand on the apparel options currently available. Looking ahead. The pair hopes to offer men’s pieces in the 2018 collection, so stay tuned.

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Living With Lupus | A Warrior’s Battle

With May being Lupus Awareness Month, I thought it the perfect time to gain a better understanding of just what this disease is. Rather than researching, I reached out to Tameka Robbins, a former high school classmate for a more personal perspective.

Tameka is a lupus warrior (Packers fan and loather of bad parking), who has lived with this ailment for some 16 years. Proactively attacking a situation, that attempts to do the same to her.

What is Lupus?

Lupus is a chronic autoimmune disease that can damage any part of the body (skin, joints, and/or organs). “Chronic” means that the signs and symptoms tend to last longer than six weeks and often for many years. – per

In Tameka’s eyes, lupus “is a pain in the ass. A bully that I have to fight nonstop on a daily basis. It’s the biggest challenge that I’ve ever faced in my life.”

The form of the disease that Tameka lives with is known as systemic lupus erythematous (SLE). And brings with it the following symptoms: extreme fatigue, hair loss, achy joints, and sun sensitivity (which causes heat rashes on exposed parts of her body). Occasionally, she experiences unexplained musculoskeletal chest pain. Which is particularly troublesome because it can mirror the sensations of a heart attack.percentage healthy

A Chance Appointment

in 2001 Tameka scheduled a visit with her PCP after consecutive days of feeling lethargic, were followed by random hair loss and a sudden sensitivity to the sun. With her doctor out of town, deciding to see the covering physician may have been a godsend.

“My PCP at the time was white (we’ll call her Dr. Wilson), the doctor I ended up seeing was black (we’ll call her Dr. Allen). Normally I don’t put much stock into race, but I say it was a blessing because when I told Dr. Allen my symptoms, the first thing she asked was if I had ever heard of lupus? After responding no, she informed me that oftentimes it takes YEARS for people to get diagnosed because the symptoms are common across other, more well known illnesses. She also told me that lupus primarily affects women of color.”

It is of her opinion, that because of Dr. Allen’s being black and well versed in lupus and the demographic it mostly affects– it significantly cut down on proper diagnosis time. An important factor in helping to combat the disease and its effects.

Post Diagnosis

Spoon Theory

Spoon Theory – a visual depiction of the energy needed to perform common daily tasks when battling a chronic illness

“It takes me a lot more effort to do even the most basic things that most other people can do without thinking about (see Spoon Theory, for a better explanation). There are many times when I just break down and cry because I hate not feeling well; the thing is I NEVER feel 100%. I’m usually operating between 30-70%.”

Tameka credits her support system (mom, husband, close friends, and amazing co-workers) and scripture for providing a means to cope when times seem their bleakest. Support and some semblance of understanding, not pity, is all these brave individuals need to get thru at times.

To that end, she recommends finding a quality support system and a lupus buddy, to anyone newly diagnosed. Because an illness as unpredictable as this, is hard enough to deal with without suffering in silence.

“I have to actively invest in myself because if I don’t, my condition will deteriorate and could kill me. It takes time to make sure that I’m eating healthy, taking my meds daily, scheduling and attending multiple doctors appointments, staying in tune with my body in an effort to identify when I have a flare-up. Sometimes I feel like I’m failing miserably, but there’s always someone to remind me that I’m a warrior.”

And a warrior she definitely is.

I humbly salute everyone who battles this cruel, faceless disease. May each passing day be better than the last and bring us one step closer to a cure. With that I’d be remiss if I didn’t include this one last parting shot from the lady in purple.

“Some people have a hard time believing that I’m sick because I don’t look sick, which to me is a fucking insult.” People, please stop saying stupid things like this. Just because you can’t see it or haven’t experienced it, doesn’t mean it hurts any less.

Related news: 

  • On 5/5/2017, the signed fiscal 2017 omnibus (H.R. 244), included $13 million in new funding specifically to advance lupus research, education and awareness.
  • On 5/20/2017, Tameka and her team of loving volunteers will be participating in the ‘2017 DC Walk to End Lupus Now’. Her personal fundraising goal for this year has been met now (ehem)…but any additional funds, I’m almost certain would be welcome. CLICK HERE
  • For more information visit, the Lupus Foundation of America at

National Nurses Week – May 6-12, 2017

National Nurses Week running from May 6-12, is a time set aside to acknowledge an often ignored section of the American workforce. From schools to clinics, hospitals to battlefields, nurses serve in any number of capacities as frontline stewards. Helping to maintain or regain one’s optimal health.

Every patient and medical situation calls for a different course of action to achieve the best possible outcome. And no one knows this better than the selfless men and women who take on this challenge daily. Just as these trained professionals are often the first face that a new patient sees. They also can be the most important at any moment. With duties that find them calming the nerves of the fearful, starting necessary IVs or being the first in the room to address unresponsiveness, to name a few. Nurses have to be just as versatile and adaptable as they are skilled.

“Nursing is an art: and if it is to be made an art, it requires an exclusive devotion as hard a preparation as any painter’s or sculptor’s work; for what is the having to do with dead canvas or dead marble, compared with having to do with the living body, the temple of God’s spirit? It is one of the Fine Arts: I had almost said, the finest of Fine Arts” – Florence Nightingale, the founder of modern nursing.

Assessment, diagnosis, planning, implementation, evaluation. These five tenets comprise the nursing process. A learned protocol of steps that nurses of all walks utilize to provide service with grace and benevolence. These individuals face emotionally, physically and mentally taxing occurrences on a regular basis. All to provide the highest level of care needed, in a person’s time of need. And for that we humbly thank them.

Related news:

For more information on National Nurses Week, go to the American Nurses Association | National Nurses Week page.

Stay Woke…but unplug occasionally

The other night at dinner, I was talking to my son about his day. Jordyn, my 2yo was sitting at her table singing Bob Marley’s “3 Little Birds”. She’s a little jukebox, just like her mother. I couldn’t help but smile.

Afterwards, my son Jaden who plays AAU basketball had a scrimmage. So we got in the car and he put his NBA 2K12 Soundtrack on, like he does every time we’re going to do something basketball related. And for an hour he provided me a much needed distraction.

Inside that gym, I saw him, his teammates and their competition (varying hues, but predominantly brown like he & I)– being carefree children. There was laughter, frustration, coaches yelling and applauding, whistles blowing and parents talking recklessly. I watched as the fruits of extra practice time, allowed him to regain his jumper. And on the last one, he left that goose neck up as he walked off the court.

When he headed to the huddle, we made eye contact and he smiled broadly. I shook my head, grinned and gave my sign to focus and keep playing. He nodded and listened to his coach.

Unbeknownst to him, my heir had done for me the same thing that my air had done over an hour prior. They allowed me to break not only from the usual day to day grind. But they forced me to unplug from the negativity, the hatred, the fear, the unnecessary yet unavoidable reality that is again being forced onto the masses.

Our nation is broken and has been since forever. Our justice system is broken and has been since forever. Yet even with that, if we as individuals don’t allow ourselves opportunities however small they may be, to exhale and experience some form of normalcy– we will burn out and be worthless to any cause or to those that need us most.

Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, Snapchat, the news, both cable and network. They all are regurgitating the same negative information and energy over and over again in a non-stop 24 hr news cycle, that can easily do as much harm as good. Yes, it is necessary to be informed. It’s also a must to be selective about whose feeding you and how often.

Our present day reality is not new:

  • there’s a chance I, my children’s mother or anyone in their village could leave home in the AM and never return.
  • my son, is nearing that age where he will begin spending more time away from the nest. He’s only a year younger than Tamir Rice was.
  • my daughter could be riding in the backseat one day during a sheer happenstance encounter with law enforcement, that could go wrong for any number of reasons (see Philando Castile).

This is the remix to a past that POC were faced with some 3-4 generations ago. One that I try my hardest not to let outwardly affect me. At least not in the eyes of my babies. Because they need me, us, here in the physical as well as to preserve the ideal we provide them.

They need to know that someone in their life cares. Especially as they come up in a country, that continues to prove it could give a good damn about them.

With all that said, no matter if you are a frontline fighter against injustice, a background supporter or quiet sympathizer…I implore you to make time to unplug. Because if you don’t, the sheer volume of mind numbing occurrences and their coverage– will certainly, drive you mad.

Be vigilant. Be smart. Be safe.



:: Love ::





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“Postgame Pass” – BOOK REVIEW

Postgame Pass: Access to the Life, by Jill Munroe is a riveting cautionary tale, of the fast life of today’s modern day professional male athlete.

It details stories of sex, drugs, rock’n’roll, Pac-Man, gambling, violence, dragons and the incomparable Robin Givens.

And as over the top as the above statement reads, only a very small percentage of it is false. I’m still trying to decide how I feel about that.

In the book, Jill speaks to a few different audiences, in what one could frankly describe as a manual for all interested stakeholders, involved in the day to day off the field dealings of big time American professional athletes.

From young soon to be pros (w/aspirations to become a recognizable brand), to their wives/girlfriends, to aspiring fun girls hoping to become reality TV stars to those regular people that keep VH1 + Bravo’s ratings so high– there really is something in it for everyone.

Now for the pure sports fan who only cares about what’s going on on gameday or the necessary training and discipline needed…this book is NOT for you. However, you should really be able to discern that from the title. But alas even for those types, what you can gain, is a greater appreciation for what your favorite athletes have to go thru on a day to day basis. Because nothing is ever as cut and dry as it seems (i.e. why two teammates seem to suddenly have a problem with one another, and can no longer co-exist).

My favorite parts of the book:

  • Time-Outs- true stories/situations involving players recounted for poignancy to that point of the book (w/names changed unfortunately lol)
  • Chapter 4- Recycling, Chapter 7- Zero to One Hundred Real Quick, and Chapter 15- Exit Strategy
  • the glossary- a number of these terms I was familiar with prior to reading, but others not so much (for fun, read thru the glossary and then go to a pro athletes timeline on twitter and scan it…#thankmelater)
    • my new favorite terms that I can not use loosely in public *cough-cough*:  HoFax, Slash

My take:

All in all, Postgame Pass is a quick, easy and entertaining read. And would make a nice stocking stuffer for anyone who is into the life (off the field, glitz, glam, drama and trappings) of today’s milennial athlete. Initially, the book begins very “listy”. Meaning there’s a lot of, this is this, that is that, type of info. Yet after I finished it, I went back to the beginning and re-read the first couple chapters and better understood why things were presented in that fashion.

As a life long junkie of all things sports, I enjoyed it. And a number of the Time-Outs, had me thinking back long and hard to past rifts between players– in an attempt to figure out who the author was talking about. Additionally, we won’t even discuss the things I actually have done on social media, that athletes + celebrities do (according to this book). But I swear, I didn’t do it for the same reasons…well not the exact same reasons.

Without giving too much away, you’ll just have to read the book to understand. I will simply say this…”birdcall” lol.




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I’m cheating on my…

…site and I don’t feel all that bad.

Well maybe a little.

Last month, I began blogging for Haute Hipsters Media, a communications and branding boutique agency based out of the DC area.

During the re-branding and subsequent re-launch of the website earlier this summer, the company’s owner TaKeyia Monique, decided to include a blogging component to the imprint– with focuses on music, sports, fashion and relationships.

Guess which one I chose?

So far, two pieces have been posted (links below) in “The MANual” and another one is in the pipeline, and should be posted soon. If you’re familiar with me and my writing style, you know what to expect. An honest, fair view on whatever the topic is, with just a touch of comedy…yet always real.

To wrap, continue to check the site here at, for all of my regular content. But also support what I have going on over at HHM as well. They seem to have something nice flowing over there. I’m just spreading my wings a little bit and tagging along for the ride.



“The MANual” | #HauteApprovedRelationships




Text Me, So I Know It’s Real

Remember passing notes in class back in the day to someone you liked?

Do you like me? Check [ ]YES [ ]NO [ ]MAYBE

BRUH! Those days are beyond gone. And I shutter at the thought of my 8yo dating some day. Text messages, facebook drama and screencaps, oh my.

But think about it. When you were younger, you really were good w/just having someone to call your girlfriend or your boyfriend. You two might go to the mall in big groups and go to the movies or on big trips…like the school’s annual visit to an amusement park.

Holding hands, MATCHING, lapping up in the back of the bus. The latter was considered big sh!t…DIGRESSION!

Taking all that into account and factoring in, just how much more advanced in situations the youths of today, find themselves in. Kids just seem to end up in far more precarious positions than we did at the same age. A lot of that could be avoided with simple common sense, but that’s not what this is about.


Roxanne, Roxanne, can’t you understand?
Roxanne, Roxanne, I wanna be your man

Roxanne Jones, a founding editor of ESPN The Magazine and a former vice president at ESPN, penned an op-ed for CNN a few weeks ago titled– “Young men, get a ‘yes’ text before sex“.

The piece was written from the perspective of a mother, unafraid to have discussions about sex with her son (and also his friends)–a lost art in today’s society. A woman who thanks to her prior position, has heard first hand of the depths many successful male athletes go, to steer clear of entrapment from greedy capitalistic women. And speaking frankly, many regular men of differing ages are susceptible to similar plots.

Now I won’t delve too far into her write-up, because I feel it warrants the perusal of each adult individual, especially those of you who are parents. And from there, draw your own conclusions on whether you agree/disagree/at least see where she’s coming from. But I will say, that IMO there is some merit to where I believe she’s going with this.

Can something as simple as a text, make a difference if an incident arises? After all, any one can decide last minute not to go through with something. Is the possible protection a text could provide greater, than the additional villainizing fodder of the female victim in said incident?

What are your thoughts?



No Glove Love

** I may need security **

I was on the train this morning (orange line to Vienna), and this young girl that could be no more than sixteen at the most, got on with an infant.

Now of course teen pregnancy, is far from a new phenomenon. In fact it’s fairly safe to say it’s somewhat of an expected norm to a degree, but it did make me wonder– what “spoken” act set that particular reality in motion?

False promises. BS claims. Subconscious desire for something else. What?

Now, I’m not looking to try and solve the teen pregnancy epidemic that has been what it is, for decades. But moreso, just trying to gain some semblance of understanding. Is it as simple as a negative manifestation of something lacking from a young woman’s upbringing? Or is it a young woman just making a reckless decision? Even with the countless examples of young mother’s:  in their personal lives (friends), maybe family members or just seeing it in movies and TV–what would lead one to still make a decision that could place them in the position of caring for another life, when they themselves have not lived?

I totally get that people make mistakes everyday. However how do you explain those instances that are repeated by the same party? I don’t know. In the end it’s a truly sad state of affairs. Especially in less affluent neighborhoods, because babies raising babies, more often than not– does not work well. And only leads to an increased number of the social ills we see daily in those same locales.

Now of course we’ve all heard about how powerful WORDS are. They can make your day, just as easily as they can ruin it. So does it come down to what one hears and when they hear it? Is it the energy and effort placed behind those words (and who utters them) that make all the difference? Or is that too simplistic of a view and it’s in fact deeper than that?

What do you think? Feel free to speak on this in any capacity…




:: random quotes relating to  pregnancy, I’ve come across while thinking on this ::

“self worth often lies at the end of a mans orgasm” <<< I wish I could remember where I read this. Because this is a frighteningly potent statement, that I feel holds a lot of weight
“brains and beauty have NOTHING to do with common sense”
“whos going to turn down good raw cooch”

Screencap Deez

Social media is here to stay, we all know this.

In it’s purest form, it provides a lot of positives when used for the greater good.  And on the flip side, it provides a platform for a lot of negativity.  And we won’t even mention how it’s made the most insignificant motherfuckers regular people feel as though they’re important.

In keeping with that negative angle, let’s give it up one time for the genius that decided to give cellphones screenshot capability.

BECAUSE SHIT HAS GONE DOWNHILL EVER SINCE B! You can’t go a couple days w/o seeing a screenshot used as a ploy to entertain/blackmail/embarrass someone nowadays.

screen·shot noun \ˈskrēn-ˌshät\

: an image that shows the contents of a computer display

Screenshots, used to be used at work to show someone in another location what their coworker was seeing on their screen.  And that still is the case to a lesser degree. But nowadays it’s moreso used in this capacity:

And this is a non-malicious example. Now I can’t front, these “autocorrect” joints are funny as hell, as are the lighthearted convos shared amongst friends. But I like the odds that if you are reading this post, that you’ve been made privy to some celebrity or someone you know being put all the way out there.  For some completely random reason.

Do cell convo screenshots have a place?  Of course, because sometimes you do need proof of an occurence.  But that doesn’t explain throwing up shots of entire convos strictly because you just want someone to believe that some random stranger on instagram asked if he could stick a straw in your butt…what’s really the point of that?  Get over yourself, really.

The worst though IMO, is when groupies/jump-offs/insert preferred colloquialism here, sends entire screenshot conversations between themselves and celebs (most commonly athletes) to bloggers.  And their quoted explanation always starts w/this line, “I wanted people to know how he really is.”


Stop it, lol. You know you are just looking for the slightest “in” to hopefully get your twitter count up, couple more LIKES on IG, maybe even get a few more inquiries from other blogs. Ooh, maybe a Hot97 interview.  And maybe, just maybe if you’re lucky…Bravo or VH1 will have someone get in contact with you about a show that will do it’s damnedest to continue to set your gender back an immeasurable amount.

But in all seriousness, now:

  • The thirsty can’t thirst in peace anymore.
  • The messy gossiper, can’t spread rumors freely anymore.
  • The new age dboy can’t even say, “I’m selling dope… straight off the iPhone” (word 2 the great American philosopher, ROZAYYYY!) anymore.

And that ain’t right, let those folks and their McStruggle shine. IDK, things are so crazy right now, it’s ridiculous. I don’t know how you all put up with this. And the negative implications on dating during the social media and screencap/screenshot renaissance period, oh my damn! Chalk it up to yet another reason I’m glad I’m married.

Shit, women today would hate a single version of me. Because I wouldn’t text shit. I still believe in voicemail (short messages, “Hey call me, if you want”) and I’m a fan of pay phones. Talk to me in person, screenshots are for suckers.

To conclude, life clearly has become totally monotonous and mundane for far too many, when screencapped conversations are how you all entertain yourselves.  Pick up a remote, go to the movies, PUT YOUR PHONE DOWN, play in traffic.  Something.  We’ve got to do better people.


quick parting shotsThere is a very good possibility that men do this as well, and if so… yikes!!!  But the majority (actually every) negative instance of screenshot airing out, that I’ve seen has been done by a woman.  So plz any new readers of the site, do not comment saying that I’m another woman basher.  Because that is the furthest from the truth.


I got you.

It’s amazing how impactful three words can be. Not “I love you” powerful, but they still make a statement.

Two way streets work the best between 5:30 and 6:00 am during the weekday. When people can move about freely, without fear of congestion.

SUPPORT is without question a two way street. ideally, works like a two way street– yet in reality is more of a one way lane during rush hour with cars double parked in front of all side streets.

And as fucked up as this truth is, it will never change because there will always be someone who is the “bigger/better” person, who chooses to support any and everything that they deem worthy. But for how long?

Personally, I want the best for everyone that walks this earth– as long as their wishes don’t infringe negatively on others. Don’t be alarmed, this isn’t a cumbaya moment waiting to explode off of your screen. I am also a creative person and in such, am attracted to creativity in all forms.

[ wanting the best for people x loving anything creative = YOU GET MY SUPPORT ]

I also ride extra hard for my people and as long as it’s legal, if you (an associate or friend) are doing something…I got you. I’m going to be there for you in some way, if not every way. I consider myself a true supporter.

The problem of which I’ve seen in my travels both on and off line in regards to true support is, it’s not reciprocated. There are (and will always be) those who want support for this/that, yet whenever they get it and their moment has passed…you never hear from them again. It’s as though a sinkhole opened up and they fell smooth inside that bitch of it.

The good thing for them however is, the existence of the TRUE SUPPORTER. A true supporter, for the sake of this entry, is someone who backs something with no thoughts of reciprocation. There is no “what’s in this for me”, portion of their program. They’re either all in for whatever the project is, because they like it (it’s potential). Or, your play is backed because of association. Sometimes both. It’s just how their brain works, how they move.

So what’s the real inspiration for this topic of discussion, you may ask?

Well to be quite frank, the lack of support from a number of folks on probably the biggest venture I’ve undertaken in my life to date. It’s one thing to witness from afar an issue like this. But it’s totally different, when it’s in your face and it actually involves you.

And this isn’t an attempt to call those persons out (although I am talking directly at a few people in particular and if anyone reading this does feel some kinda way, cool). It’s moreso just my way of saying, “oh now I get it”. I see where things stand.  Cool, thanks for the heads up.

Ponder this. Some supporters see fraudulent behavior and respond (or not) in kind. And not to toot my own horn, but there aren’t a lot of people out here like me (there’s a free double entendre in there somewhere).

[ new projects x dwindling amounts of support from people you actually know = FAILURE ]

In conclusion…do not read this entry and email/text/IM/FB or G-chat me, trying to explain yourself. Because I’ve already counted you as those to not expect anything from. We’re good, seriously.

Now I can’t speak for anyone else, you may have solicited support from in the past and not reciprocated the action towards.

Food for thought.